Reason: How I got interested in Psychology?(part 2)

Continued from Part 1:
http://pratikkirve.blogspot.in/2013/07/reason-how-i-got-interested-in.html

I asked her to wait to check whether she is interested or not. She knew what I wanted to talk as I cleared everything by staring at her. Then she didn't wait. So I came to know that she is not interested. 

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Then instead of trying to get close to her, I started thinking that why didn't she wait? That means why she wasn't interested in me. I ensured we are opposites, all the attention of sir was on me, all the glamour kind of things were with me, then what was the problem? I thought that I need to observe her again. I started observing her again & found that the kind of things I am doing that was ensuring my dumbness, she was also doing that kind of things. That means she is also dumb. That means I had concluded wrong that she is smart.

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So I decided that I will not let this happen with me again. I'll choose smart girl. For my ease I thought I must have some indication to I identify smart girl at one glance. Then I made one conclusion that the girl who does what she says, who makes things happen in her way is the Smart girl. For eg., If we get bored in class & a girl convinces sir to take remaining part on next day, She is Smart girl.


This was my primary assumption. I identified these kind of girls. Then I tried to draw some conclusions on face, body language. But was not getting any conclusion. Then one day I just observed Smart girl with a nice shine in her Smile. I observed same pattern in another Smart girl. So I made a firm conclusion that whoever I find with the shine & the same pattern I will consider them as Smart & others lacking that shine, Dumb.

Then this became my hobby, I started observing friends & family. I went more & more deep into smile and I prepared raw material in the book which I'll be sharing with you from now....

Reason: How I got interested in Psychology?(part 1)

When I was in 12th standard, I used to go to gym. In gym, as we usually discuss different things, I was discussing some things with my friends. In that discussion, the topic of Girls came out. So, they asked me whether you have girlfriend or not. As I was not having girlfriend, I said No. They said 'what is this, yaar?? The boy like you must have girlfriend. Why are you coming to gym?? Not for girls???'

They continued, 'It is easy to have girlfriend! The things you are best at, just show it off  & girls will get impressed!! It is not difficult at all to get girlfriend!!! You can get one. You have
good body, you are studious, so it will not be difficult for you to get girlfriend!!'

Then I thought that I will do something to get girlfriend. Then in the tuition which I joined for 12th, I had to choose a girl from there only. I knew that I'm dumb. I observed a girl & concluded that she is smart. I also knew one thing that opposites attract, so I thought according that wo mujse pat jayegi. This was the reason I chose that particular girl. 

Also I was well-known because of some crackbrained things I did like comment something to make whole class laugh, coming late to classes. So, I thought as I am getting attention, I will continue that to get her attention. Then I started doing all the irrelevant things to get into her eyes. I never tried to do friendship with her or didn't try to know her. It was the like I want girlfriend, that's it.

For many days, It was just staring at her only. Simultaneously I used to crack PJs in the class, she used to laugh & look at me in curiosity of who did this, but I used to think that she also likes me. I wasn't in the state of mind of knowing what it really is. I used to think that I'm so close of having girlfriend. Then gradually she also came to know that I was staring at her. So she refused to look at me when I was cracking PJs or doing anything else to get her attention. So, I became restless & decided to ask her.

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As I am shy, I didn't have guts to tell others that I liked her in fear of their teasing. I only told this to one friend. Then I decided that whatever may happens in this week whenever I'll get a chance, when nobody will notice me asking her I'll just check whether she is interested in me or not. 

To be continued...

Introduction

I am going to write about the research I'm doing on how smile is related to psychology!!!

This is based on personality psychology, so the way I perceive the behavior, way of thinking of people will be expressed here.