Why things
go right when others make choices for me and go wrong when I make choices for
myself? Do I not know how to predict what will work and what will not? We can’t
be right every time when we make choices, but I am not able to any exception
for that when I made a choice for myself. Or I get so desperate to prove myself
right that I forget to do what is right, to enjoy the journey, not thinking
about the consequences and proving others that I’m right. Or I make some irrational
choices those are certain to fail because those are out of the world and don’t
fit into the world or so called system.
When others
make choices for me, they make it according to system and those will be right
as those are according to system and system always wins. But what’s the point
in going according to system if our beliefs differ from what system says. When
we make choices those are against the current, the level of determination
required to swim is greater than which is required for swimming with current.
The dead fish can swim with the flow. A lot of people swim with the flow,
because they don’t have reason to swim against the current. When those who dare
to swim against and fail, they judge them on the same ability required to flow
with the current.
Yes,
swimming against the current is an irrational decision, an unreasonable choice.
But is it necessary to make the right choices every time. If we start making
the right choices every time, then from where we will learn? Either we are so
intelligent that we tested everything that could go wrong or we are so
fortunate that everything turns out to be as planned. But both of these things
are irrational. To test everything we have to know what could go wrong and that
wisdom comes from experience and experience comes from the wrong choices. The
mistakes or wrong choices made as early as possible have an advantage. The more
wrong choices we make, the wiser we become at early age.
When I make wrong
choices, every time it makes me wiser. Let go what people think about it. Only
those who are dissatisfied with themselves judge others. Instead of helping and
learning from others’ bad choices, they are content with the failures to make
them feel good about themselves. It gives them satisfaction that there are
losers in the world other than me. But those who fail due to irrational
decisions and learn something from it, which makes them wiser, are they
failure? Should they be judged on the same scale as others who are right
because they made choices based on what flowing with current says, what system
says. Anybody can do that, even the dead fish. But that’s not a choice. That’s
not taking any decision due to fear of failure. Actually it is not wrong to
make choice to go with the flow. The types of difficulties are different on
both paths. Flowing with current involves competition, crowd and unpredictability
of existence. Swimming against involves fear of failure, isolation and uncertainty.
What’s wrong is judging people who make choice of swimming against current and
flowing with current on same scale.
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