WHY DO I MAKE WRONG CHOICES EVERY TIME?

Why things go right when others make choices for me and go wrong when I make choices for myself? Do I not know how to predict what will work and what will not? We can’t be right every time when we make choices, but I am not able to any exception for that when I made a choice for myself. Or I get so desperate to prove myself right that I forget to do what is right, to enjoy the journey, not thinking about the consequences and proving others that I’m right. Or I make some irrational choices those are certain to fail because those are out of the world and don’t fit into the world or so called system.

When others make choices for me, they make it according to system and those will be right as those are according to system and system always wins. But what’s the point in going according to system if our beliefs differ from what system says. When we make choices those are against the current, the level of determination required to swim is greater than which is required for swimming with current. The dead fish can swim with the flow. A lot of people swim with the flow, because they don’t have reason to swim against the current. When those who dare to swim against and fail, they judge them on the same ability required to flow with the current.

Yes, swimming against the current is an irrational decision, an unreasonable choice. But is it necessary to make the right choices every time. If we start making the right choices every time, then from where we will learn? Either we are so intelligent that we tested everything that could go wrong or we are so fortunate that everything turns out to be as planned. But both of these things are irrational. To test everything we have to know what could go wrong and that wisdom comes from experience and experience comes from the wrong choices. The mistakes or wrong choices made as early as possible have an advantage. The more wrong choices we make, the wiser we become at early age.

When I make wrong choices, every time it makes me wiser. Let go what people think about it. Only those who are dissatisfied with themselves judge others. Instead of helping and learning from others’ bad choices, they are content with the failures to make them feel good about themselves. It gives them satisfaction that there are losers in the world other than me. But those who fail due to irrational decisions and learn something from it, which makes them wiser, are they failure? Should they be judged on the same scale as others who are right because they made choices based on what flowing with current says, what system says. Anybody can do that, even the dead fish. But that’s not a choice. That’s not taking any decision due to fear of failure. Actually it is not wrong to make choice to go with the flow. The types of difficulties are different on both paths. Flowing with current involves competition, crowd and unpredictability of existence. Swimming against involves fear of failure, isolation and uncertainty. What’s wrong is judging people who make choice of swimming against current and flowing with current on same scale.

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