JUSTIFY - THE FALLACIOUS USE OF MIND

When the mind’s great ability, to reason, is used erroneously; the repercussions are unthinkable. When this way of thinking becomes habit, the great things are beyond our grasp. This happens when we don’t find anything worthy, so we try to avoid it by giving excuses or unnecessary justifications to prove that we are right. Sometimes, we justify our fears by giving excuses for not doing the work that should be done at any cost. That does not mean we should use another ability to justify our inabilities. This is what I was doing when I made a mistake and I couldn’t take a stand for myself because the odds were against me. The life didn’t knock me down; I knocked myself down by my own hands. Life wasn’t unfair to me; I was irresponsible.

I was literally discovering boredom in those days. I was not allowed to do anything about making a dream into a reality. Because I got 4 backlogs and my parents thought that my dream was the reason for my distraction. They were right. It was the reason for my pathetic result. My mind was so creative at that time. When I had to study and clear those backlogs, it was busy in creating excuses for my irresponsible choice of focusing on things that didn’t matter at that time over the things that was important at that time.

I used to think that they should not form an opinion about me based on the university mark sheet. The great ones had failed in schools and colleges, yet they were able to achieve something huge, beyond imagination. I can also do that. Why were they taking it so seriously? These sheets can’t decide my future. I create it, not the university. Three college drop-outs are now the most important people in the field of technology and they are self-made billionaires. I was not thinking about dropping out from college, I just wanted to do what I love. Why this sheet of papers will decide my fate?

Actually, they didn’t have problem with my result; they had problem with my irresponsible nature. They were ready to give me four months assuming that I had graduated from college. But still, I was busy in finding the justifications for what I had done. It was of no use. It was waste of creativity, use of mind for wrong purpose. It took me away from the right path. The habit of giving justifications is so harmful to man’s character. It yields nothing, but takes deep down to the place of misery.

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FACE IT - IT'S THE TIME

It took me one and half months to gather courage to confront to my parents about what I want to do. I was pretending that I wanted to a job, but every time I felt guilty of pretending. When they were doing so much for me, they deserve honesty from me. So, I first told about it to my mother that I have been planning to do a business using my research. She suggested me to do it part time. But to plant a new idea in people’s mind is not an easy job. It requires dedicated and consistent efforts. To achieve that, I can’t do it a part time business. According to my mother, uncertainty was as issue, but she didn’t say it directly. At first, she could see opportunities. I was able to present the facts which I prepared during that one and half month. Though, she was showing support, I knew from her body language that she hadn’t accepted my idea of risking.

The high command was my father. Their approval and acceptance was more important. My mother told me to ask father and then decide. As there has always been a fear of father’s reaction due to his short tempered nature, I couldn’t gather courage to confront him on the day I decided. Not even after three days after that day. I wasted four days in procrastination due to my fear. But I had to do it one day; otherwise regrets would have been more painful. It was Thursday. After having dinner, my parents were watching TV in the hall. I was in bedroom holding the book to help me present my view in front of them and walking back and forth. Mt brother also thought that I’d gone crazy. He asked, ‘what was the matter with you?’ I ignored him. And I went straight in the hall.

I said that I want to discuss about what I wanted to do with my life. Mother looked at me; but father was looking at TV and said ‘hmm’. I started telling them what I want to do and how I was going to do it. Still, father nodded looking at TV. Was that program so important? I couldn’t understand why he was taking me for granted? Only one reason. My mother had told him about it and he made up his mind about it. So he closed his mind and don’t want to take inputs from me. Or at least listen to what I had to say. The moment I came to know this, I closed my book and realized it was going to be so difficult. How can we give something if someone is not ready to accept? I barely said four lines and stopped noticing his reaction.

When I stopped, he turned off TV and then looked at me. He gave me every reason for next one hour about practicality and why I should not pursue what I really wanted to do. To my surprise, mother was also supporting him. They explained me every aspect of practicality, from why money is so important to why people won’t pay me for giving them advices, from you don’t have any degree to why idea is very difficult to plant. Yes, they were right. But, I was talking about doing something unique and it was going to take some time. My father gave me another option. He suggested me to start any production line or workshop. He wasn’t against doing a business, but against doing business of selling an idea. Because, it is more difficult to sell an idea than to sell a product. But, I wasn’t interested. I didn’t counter them at any point of time, because I knew that they had closed their minds to my inputs. We had completely opposite set of beliefs. In the end, I asked them for some time to think. I didn’t want to go back to my engineering life. I asked for some time to think of different way to convince them. They agreed.

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