INEVITABLE - ACTION HAS CONSEQUNCES

Once the decision had been made by parents and it’s against our will, the feeling of hatred for them is inevitable. We blame them thinking why they were making decisions for us, why can’t we make those for ourselves? Though they want our good, and there were no bad intentions; but we hate them. We don’t like the fact that they were controlling our life. We want freedom of choice, not only the career choice, whom to marry, what to do at any point of time and everything. We just don’t want things to be told to us. When it comes to doing things close to our hearts, it just gets worst. We hate the fact that they are telling us what to do thinking that we are insane or crazy or being unrealistic. Though the thing makes us happy, they are more concerned about practicality and what people will think if things don’t work out. They think more about who will marry you if you fail to make respectable money in others eyes.

But we can’t blame them. Whatever is happening around us, we are responsible. I created that situation; I got the backlogs, now it’s my responsibility to clear it. Their reaction was obvious. Who does that irresponsible thing in final year? I had to follow what they were saying, I had no option. The odds weren’t against me; I defied all the boundaries of their tolerance by doing something irresponsible. No matter how much I blame university or life, it was me who was responsible. They asked me to focus on studies and no business or anything related to that, so I had to agree. It was my mistake. I made them make that decision for me and I couldn’t counter.

I couldn’t stop what I wanted to do fully. So I used to go to the ground of our colony in the evening every day. Find a friend and start asking him whether he wanted to know about himself or whether his relationship will work or not from his smile. I informed them that there was no charge. So everyone agreed.  It benefited me two ways: One, I wasn’t loosing the touch, because it was a good practice for me. Second, I was building a network though I was giving them my services for free. Another reason for giving my services to friends was, I did my research based on the observations I did while hanging out with them. I used to have more understanding of human nature while I was interacting with them. And formed my theory based on the material I was getting by being with them. I was taking something from them, so it would be unfair if I charge them for that. I wanted to return what I took from them, so I was giving them my services for free.

For next few days, I used to study whole day; actually pretend that I was studying and in the evening, consult my friends. I wasn’t enjoying those days, but for every moment, thinking about the day when I’ll be free to live my dream.

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GRATITUDE LETTER

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I thought about different ways to convince them for next two days. While trying to figure out ways from whatever I had read till that day, it reminded me of one of the principles mentioned in book, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People.’ It said that when you want others to appreciate what you have, you should first appreciate what they have. It applied in my situation that I should tell my parents what they had done to me and they will appreciate what I have. The only way to make them believe in me was to appreciate their efforts, their sacrifices and their love.

But, how to do it? Only telling them won’t make any difference. There should be the way in which my deepest feeling will be conveyed. Again, my reading habit came to the rescue. I read a book, ‘The Whole New Mind,’ by Daniel Pink, in which he mentioned about gratitude letters. Writing a letter to your loved ones to thank them for whatever they had done for you. It should be written on the paper in your own handwriting, no typing and read aloud in front of them. He also mentioned that people cry after reading and listening to these letters. Relationships had been healed, strong bonding had been restored and lot more benefits with the single letter.

The concept was simple, but the execution was so difficult for me. I think twice, thrice before asking anything to my father. How was I going to write and read a gratitude letter in these conditions in which he might be mad at me? It was exciting, but I thought about discarding this way. But I had no other way, so I decided to go with this.

For the whole night, when everybody slept, I took a pen and a book and started thinking about all the sacrifices or special things they had done for me from the childhood. Reminiscing all, I made some rough notes of memories. I could recollect from 3^rd standard. Once I got enough memories, I started writing an actual letter. My chest was pounding. I couldn’t imagine what will happen when I will actually read aloud in front of them. It was Thursday night. Till 4 am in the morning, I finished both the letters. One for mother and one for father. I decided that I will read them in front of them on Saturday night. I couldn’t gather courage on that night. So I decided, on the Sunday night. Again, I couldn’t.

While sleeping, I was determined that I will do it next morning no matter what. On the Monday morning, I took two letters and two photographs. One photograph was me and father in which he was holding me on right arm when I was 2 years old and another was me and mother in same pose. I went into the hall. He was watching TV. Without giving any idea of what I was going to do, I started reading the letter which included little incidences of sacrifices and special things he did for me from childhood till that day and thanked him for each and every little thing. He was startled. When I finished reading, I gave it to him with a photograph. I did the same thing with my mother. When I finished with both, father didn’t take it seriously and mother demanded that I should write a book on her, only a letter won’t do anything. We chuckled. I didn’t get any reaction mentioned in that book, so I was little disappointed thinking that the impact hadn’t been made.

After two minutes silence, my mother asked why did I do it? I answered that to appreciate what you had done for me. Then she asked me about what had whether I decided about my future. I told them that I want 4 months to test this idea, and then I will decide what to do. They agreed. I was happy. At least for 4 months, I will live my dream. Who knows what will happen next? But, one thing I learned that day. Only 20 seconds of courage and everything changes.

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FACE IT - IT'S THE TIME

It took me one and half months to gather courage to confront to my parents about what I want to do. I was pretending that I wanted to a job, but every time I felt guilty of pretending. When they were doing so much for me, they deserve honesty from me. So, I first told about it to my mother that I have been planning to do a business using my research. She suggested me to do it part time. But to plant a new idea in people’s mind is not an easy job. It requires dedicated and consistent efforts. To achieve that, I can’t do it a part time business. According to my mother, uncertainty was as issue, but she didn’t say it directly. At first, she could see opportunities. I was able to present the facts which I prepared during that one and half month. Though, she was showing support, I knew from her body language that she hadn’t accepted my idea of risking.

The high command was my father. Their approval and acceptance was more important. My mother told me to ask father and then decide. As there has always been a fear of father’s reaction due to his short tempered nature, I couldn’t gather courage to confront him on the day I decided. Not even after three days after that day. I wasted four days in procrastination due to my fear. But I had to do it one day; otherwise regrets would have been more painful. It was Thursday. After having dinner, my parents were watching TV in the hall. I was in bedroom holding the book to help me present my view in front of them and walking back and forth. Mt brother also thought that I’d gone crazy. He asked, ‘what was the matter with you?’ I ignored him. And I went straight in the hall.

I said that I want to discuss about what I wanted to do with my life. Mother looked at me; but father was looking at TV and said ‘hmm’. I started telling them what I want to do and how I was going to do it. Still, father nodded looking at TV. Was that program so important? I couldn’t understand why he was taking me for granted? Only one reason. My mother had told him about it and he made up his mind about it. So he closed his mind and don’t want to take inputs from me. Or at least listen to what I had to say. The moment I came to know this, I closed my book and realized it was going to be so difficult. How can we give something if someone is not ready to accept? I barely said four lines and stopped noticing his reaction.

When I stopped, he turned off TV and then looked at me. He gave me every reason for next one hour about practicality and why I should not pursue what I really wanted to do. To my surprise, mother was also supporting him. They explained me every aspect of practicality, from why money is so important to why people won’t pay me for giving them advices, from you don’t have any degree to why idea is very difficult to plant. Yes, they were right. But, I was talking about doing something unique and it was going to take some time. My father gave me another option. He suggested me to start any production line or workshop. He wasn’t against doing a business, but against doing business of selling an idea. Because, it is more difficult to sell an idea than to sell a product. But, I wasn’t interested. I didn’t counter them at any point of time, because I knew that they had closed their minds to my inputs. We had completely opposite set of beliefs. In the end, I asked them for some time to think. I didn’t want to go back to my engineering life. I asked for some time to think of different way to convince them. They agreed.

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ESCAPADE OR IT'S WORTH DOING?

It was a reality. I was getting 2 backlogs at the end of the final exam of final year. But the concern at the moment wasn’t the engineering journey, but the journey ahead. The time to face the ‘real world’ as they call it. I had time to convince my parents till the results were out. Because once they come to know that I got backlogs, there is no way that they will allow me to do what I really want to do.

I was so afraid of facing them and speaking my mind. I never did anything which will show my misbehavior, not even a complaint from schoolteachers. And I was going to ask them for the permission to let me take risks, let me follow my dreams. That was the most important decision for my whole family. It was going to shape my destiny. I never asked them or did anything different like this, so they were never expecting anything like this. My job was so tough. To get them who believed in doing things in conventional, orthodox ways, to support me in my unconventional and unorthodox endeavor.

The belief system is very difficult to change. In additional to that, they are experienced, they know the world better than me, and how I was going to ask them to allow me to do something which is impractical in their eyes. One thing was clear to me; I was not going to do anything behind their backs. Because, if the find out from external source, then their determination to get me do what they want me to do will be stronger than my will to do what I want me to do.

I needed to find ways to convince them and make them believe that it was possible. No matter how difficult it is, it’s possible. Impossible things have been done by people who are not smarter than me or better than me, but by those who stood for what they believe in. So I started finding ways to convince them. I gathered a lot of facts to support my will, wrote every point down in a book to present when the time comes. Facts like, how fast the world is changing and why it needs new idea, the knowledge doubling curve, I was solving people’s problems through their smiles, so why this is never ending business, as no one is perfect and everyone some kind of problems in their lives, why doing business in India is a great idea, because it has huge population, in 21^st century, the risk free employment does not exist, even there is a risk in doing job in MNC, and many more. I tried to make it more practical to explain them in their way.

I read books on how to influence people, how to make them believe in my idea and how to do it without hurting anyone. But, the execution makes the difference. I was afraid like hell. Actually, my biggest fear was how my father will react? Will he think of it as an escapade which I think is worh taking chance. I am scared of him from the childhood. He is short tempered. I am more close to my mother. She is kind and cool minded. Yes, I was going to have an uncomfortable discussion from my point of view and an unconventional discussion from their point of view. I was fully prepared and waiting to confront, gathering courage to speak what’s inside which will shape my destiny.

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DISCOVERY - TURNING THE BLESSING INTO A TRAGEDY

The time was for preparation leave for final exams. I was supposed to be preparing for those, but my mind was busy in brainstorming the ideas of business. The focus should have been studies, but I couldn’t help it. Whether it maybe bike riding or swimming or a new idea, I get so obsessed with it in early stages. When we could do a new thing, we get so much interested that we want to explore every small thing of it and do it as soon as possible. That excitement is different. For the whole day, I used to think about how will I do it, what is going to happen, and the real work didn’t even start, but I was visualizing lot of things.

In addition to that, I made a discovery. From 3 years, I found 3 patterns in smile which could be related to human nature, but in those days while thinking about smile and these business strategies, I got a new ways to look smile. It resulted in 3 new patterns in smile. I got those three patterns, but didn’t have criteria to relate to in human nature. I was supposed to keep these things out of my mind, but it actually equipped my mind. I wasn’t able to concentrate on studies. I was thinking more about those 3 patterns and how to relate to human nature. The obsession for smile was driving me away from the important things at that time. The focus shifted results in undesired consequences. I wasn’t able to answer questions in orals, college teachers were so disappointed with me and I was being naïve with no sense of responsibility.

It was final year, the most crucial. I had to graduate or things will get difficult in future. The most difficult part, which is convincing my parents to let me choose the road less travelled will get more difficult if I don’t have a degree certificate. Else, they wouldn’t believe in me thinking that if I can’t crack the university exam, how will I survive the tougher challenges of life? Maybe they would ask me to do a job first and then do the business as part time, or they would never be convinced with my idea, because it doesn’t exist and thinking no one will pay me for that, I’ll struggle for making ends meet. Lots of challenges were there, but the most important thing at that time was to complete graduation and if I don’t study, how will I pass?

Eventually, it happened what I didn’t want to happen. I couldn’t focus on studies; my mind was overflowing with ideas and fantasies all the time. I used to open the book, but the focus was on smile. Due to lack of focus, I couldn’t write enough to pass the examination. I left two papers blank, barely wrote to get 20 marks out of 100. I was in deep trouble. Things were happening with me much faster that I couldn’t relax my mind and focus on important thing. The discovery supposed to be blessing, but I made it a tragedy by being naïve. I didn’t even know how would I tell my parents that I was getting 2 backlogs? They don’t believe in concepts living a dream, living in uncertainty or taking risks to follow passion and sacrificing everything to focus on one thing. They always believed in getting a well secured job and do everything else after the start of fixed income. I realized my mistake, but the time was gone. Only consequences were the sure thing, and I wasn’t going to like it. 

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CLARITY IS STRENGTH

Confusion gets us nowhere; it’s the clarity that gives us strength to move forward. One thing was clear to me that if I want to live life of my dreams, I have to follow people who are doing it and take their guidance. It doesn’t matter whether I’m meeting them in person or I’m reading about them, watching their videos or reading the wisdom they shared through books. I have to get into the mindsets of great people if I want to be like them. From one year, I had been reading various books that would give me a way to do something with the knowledge I have, but at that moment I had a clear idea of which books should I read, what were my circumstances and how great ones used to think in those situations. Being an introvert, I gave more emphasis on reading books, blogs, watching videos online, listening to podcasts and audio books.

I came across some great wisdom that was giving me the clarity of my vision; not of business, but of life. I fell in love with quotes. They are short, but convey deep meaning. Through quotes, I was getting more clarity, and by reading books, watching inspirational and motivational videos, my belief system was forming. Because of it, I felt that I was on different mindset, on different magnitude, thinking on whole new level. Robin Sharma said, “Either you can change the world or worry about fitting in, but you can’t do both,” which gave me confidence that I have to choose one path. Thinking about path, I came across a great poem by Robert Frost, ‘The Road Not Taken’, in which said, “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.”

Yes, I’ll take the road less traveled, but will things work out right? And Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” I realized that I have to take the first step in faith. But, there will be ups and downs, how will I survive those times. What if I suffer? What if first step in faith proved to be right, but after that, it falls apart? I got answer of it in Paolo Coelho’s book, The Alchemist, in which he said, “No heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.” I was relieved but still thinking about backup plan, though all these lines were inspirational and appealing to anyone to follow their dreams. It all seems captivating from outside, to read these lines, thinking that everything will be alright, I won’t be suffering, but in reality, will everything happen in a way I planned? Yes, I have to improvise, change strategies, but will this give me the happiness and sense of fulfillment?

Few days of self doubt and I watched a TED talk by leadership expert Simon Sinek, ‘How Great Leaders Inspire Action’, in which he explained how great leaders survive in the difficult times and they inspire others to take actions without using carrots and sticks method. He also wrote a book named ‘Start With Why.’ In the book, he explained that the great leaders start with the question ‘Why’, not ‘What’. Before doing anything, they think about why they want to do what they want to do. That ‘Why’ gives them the courage to persevere in difficult times. Friedrich Nietzsche said, ‘He who has why to live can bear anyhow.’ This wisdom was giving me confidence to do, to prepare my mind for the uncertain future. I was reading more and more about how great leaders think, how they do the things, what gives them the courage to take risks and succeed.

I made a decision that instead of thinking about backup plan, why not to think how plan-A will work out right? Instead of wasting energy in preparing some backup plan, why not to invest that energy in making plan-A a successful adventure? As Paulo Coelho said, “When you want something, the whole universe conspires you in helping you achieve it.” Clarity is strength. I was clear that I was going to do something impossible, unrealistic, unreasonable and impractical. Something the world doesn’t know about. I was going to do a business based on my research how smile is related to human nature and solve people’s personal as well as relationship problems through their smile.

Thanks to the great ones for sharing their wisdom through different mediums.

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BACKUP - PLAN B

Lot of things were going in my mind for few days after getting the idea. I don’t know anything about how to run a business, who will be potential clients, how much they will pay me for this, and all. But, the fiercest thoughts were what if things don’t work out? What will I do then? What is my backup plan? Yes, I was going to complete engineering, but I needed to convince my parents that I could do this; but they were going ask me, what if you can’t? One thing was clear to me that there was no way I wanted to go in engineering field, but no one knows whether it was going to work or not. There has been nothing of this kind before. Yes, there are palm readers, face readers, but smile readers? How people will be reacting.

After thinking a lot, I decided that I will find a solution where this idea won’t fail and I don’t need backup plan then. I love reading, so I started collecting books which would guide me to find a way. I wanted to know how they plant new ideas in people’s mind and do business successfully. I was watching Oprah Winfrey’s 2008 Stanford Commencement Speech. In the speech, she mentioned a book by Dan Pink, ‘A Whole New Mind – Why Right Brainers Will Rule The Future’. So I started read that book. In the book, he explained why a new mind will be lead the 21^st century, how we are transforming from information age to conceptual age. I could relate it with me. It seemed that that book had been written for me. It gave me confidence that I can rule the future, because the things I was doing were right brained things like pattern recognition, being intuitive, creative, imaginative, big picture oriented thinking, etc. The book convinced me that I was on the right path.

But, the mind. It was telling me that this is not my cup of tea. It was a big risk, a gamble, no one do that. People don’t even know what you do. When some uncle or relatives will ask you what do you do, what will you say? They will not understand. Do a job and do this part time. Don’t gamble with your life and lot more thoughts were haunting my mind. It was saying to have a backup plan is reasonable and mature. Don’t be a kid. You have to take responsibility and get a real job. Keep this idea as a Plan-B. It’s safe and secure. Once you fail in this, then it will be harder for you to take a U-turn.

I told some of my friends that I was planning to do the full-time business. They were happy that I was having some balls, I was taking brave decisions, some were thinking that I’ve gone crazy, but many were like great, dude, work for yourself, don’t work for others, you’ll have freedom. But, in my mind, I wasn’t so sure after reading the book and encouragement from my friends. After all, everything seems fascinating from outside, but the real taste can be known when we actually get into the arena. So, I was thinking about having a backup plan. But, sometimes I thought that why to work for others, if I have my own dreams that make me happy; and plan-B may distract plan-A. But what’s the plan-A here? Honestly, I was confused when I started this about reality. 

Some insights from this phase:

1. It only gets harder when we think about living on our terms.

2. Difficult things make us stronger and more creative.

What Do you think, should we have a backup plan??

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AHA MOMENT - HOW I GOT THE UNIQUE BUSINESS IDEA

It was 31^st March, 2014. In the night, I went to sleep as usual. But, I wasn’t able to sleep because I slept in the afternoon. I was just lying on bed. Before the sleep and after waking up, our mind is calm and still. That is the time when we think about ourselves the most. That is the time for reflection. I was in final year of engineering. The only question in my mind was what to do after engineering. I chose engineering thinking that I’ll have a secured job and stable life, but I didn’t want to build a career in that because it does not articulate my inner feelings and aspirations.

I have been researching on how smile is related to human nature from 5 years. I wanted to do something related to that which will give me purpose as well as money. I had searching for an answer to question ‘what to do’ from 8-10 months. This field does not exist yet. No one knows about how it works, actually no one knew that something like this even exist. I had unique and different skill, but the knowledge without application is useless.

As I was just lying on bed, I was contemplating about what was happening in my life. The thought were centered to only one thing: Smile. I watched an inspirational video of an entrepreneur, D. S. Kulkarni, before going to bed. He said that he felt no shame while doing any kind of work, no matter how small it might be. I tried to relate that to my life. What was my work? Just researching and feeding my curiosity? Then how will I survive on it? And I don’t want to do work in engineering field.

Thinking about work and smile, from nowhere, an incident came to my mind when I explained my friend, how smile is related to his nature and how relationship problems can be solved using my theory. He had a break-up and I helped him get over that girl using my research. It happened six months ago. And it occurred to me, what if I do the same with people and get paid for it. That means I’ll do what I always wanted to do and make money. I’ll become a consultant, an entrepreneur and add value to people’s lives through my business. Wow! That makes me unique as well. I was wondering that why it didn’t occur to me before. I consulted him six months ago, I had an idea stored in my mind for those days, but it never occurred. I started thinking about the services I can provide through smile and my research, fantasizing interactions with clients and feeling happy for adding value to their lives. I was like a kid who got a bicycle as a surprise gift from his parents. He couldn’t believe that he was having his own bicycle and lost in fantasies.

I saw the timing in mobile. It was 4:55am. I was still awake. I couldn’t believe that I was going to have my own business. Seriously?! The feeling was so overwhelming that all the attempts to fall asleep failed due to excitement. I didn’t realize when I slept that night. The next day was never going to the same. Actually my life was not going to be the same again.

For this whole month, I’ll be sharing some important moments of my one year journey with you with no filtering, same as it happened. In addition to that, I’ll be sharing some insights in every post which I learnt along the journey that will help you in your life and business.

Some insights from this incidence:

1. Whatever we need is within us. No need to waste time searching for it outside.

2. We will get the answers, if we keep looking without loosing hope.

3. Two things that are in abundance in our mind: Ideas & Dreams.

4. We become the most powerful when we listen to our intuitions and decide to follow them.

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RUNNING A BUSSINESS: SHARING AN EXPERIENCE – FERGUSSON COLLEGE DAY 1 & 2

After one week gap of useless excuses, I went to Fergusson College, Shivajinagar, Pune for promotional campaigning. I wasn’t in flow, my confidence was down. In addition to that I had to do everything in college campus. It has a huge campus, so no one hangs out outside of college. On first day, I didn’t do anything. I could dare to do it in campus. The feeling of breaking the rules and not being in flow was overwhelming. I could not gather courage to show up. I knew everything what to do, but for 2 hours I was roaming in campus. I thought that I should not waste time for no reason. I observed everything, where people hang out, where are security guards, where are kattas, what kind of people study there, so basically I wanted to know the whole scenario. For the first day, I didn’t approach anyone due to no reason, but I gathered the information needed.

As I didn’t do anything on day one, I decided that today I will approach the first group I’ll come across. Before entering in the campus, I was ready with everything I needed to show up and saw the first group of 10 students. Without thinking twice, I approached them. This time I changed a strategy little bit. In modern college, it was explaining the whole file, all about my work, services I provide and then giving a demo of analysis of smile to a random person from the group. This time, after giving a short introduction about me & informing about what I do, I picked the most popular guy of the group using simple observations. The one who shows the most interest and first to take initiative to take the file from me to know what it is about. As I started telling about him, everyone was nodding in surprise and as soon as I finished telling about him, everyone in the group was like ‘wow, man! You got it all correct!’ Everyone was shocked and this reaction was so different than the reactions I used to get in modern college.

Then, I explained the whole file. Everybody got interested and wanted to know more about themselves. But I said that due to time limitations, I can tell about two or three, not more than that. They understood it. And a girl said pointing to a guy and a girl that they are in a relationship and wanted me to tell whether they have future together or not. I told them that I can’t reveal this information in front of everyone, it’s confidential, but I can tell about any one of them from his or her smile. They agreed. As I started telling that guy everyone’s attention was on him, but a girl from back side pointing towards the most popular guy secretly, avoiding anyone’s attention asked me whether their relationship will work or not. I was explaining a guy about him and she was signaling with her hand, pointing toward the most popular guy and wanted to know secretly without anyone’s attention. In my mind, I was ‘lol, what was that?’ But on face, I overlooked it, smiled at her and continued explaining. Then, explained about another girl, asked them whether they want to ask any doubts, cleared their doubts and left with a satisfaction that I got into flow.

I approached more groups in college. It went as usual. Before approaching any group, I used look around if any college officials were there and then approached. Breaking the rules is so much fun and exciting. Another thing that I changed from this college, whenever I approach any group, I used to look around avoiding eye contact and then go to them; but this time I started looking into the eyes of some of the students in the group. It increases confidence and it’s relaxing. Eye contact makes a lot of difference. I approached 30 students overall in various groups and left the college.

As I came out of gate, I saw group of 4 students. One of the girls was holding a book named ‘social psychology’. I thought that they would understand everything what I was about to present. Immediately, I opened my bag, took files out and thought that I shouldn’t approach them on street-side, I should approach them tomorrow. But I decided that I should not think twice. So I approached them, asked them whether they were psychology students. Only one girl was. I started explaining file, the same strategy I used for this college. To my surprise, as I started telling the girl about her from her smile, she was shocked; all of them were giving same amount of attention and listening earnestly. Their reactions were amazed me. We had an intelligent conversation. I was glad that I took the step. The street wasn’t the matter anymore. I gave my contact details and left. The day was over.

I am sharing some insights that would help you in your endevour to design the best life for me and yourself:

1. If we are not confident, just pretend and feel like we are confident. It makes a difference and more relaxing.

2. Look around before breaking the rule. When the field is clear, then take the step. It's fun but risky as well.

3. Do not procrastinate an important thing that is so close to you. We do not know whether we will get tomorrow.

4. Embrace what's uncomfortable. We will never be the same person as before. Stretching ourselves is not easy, but the self satisfaction is more beautiful.

Thanks for reading. Add your own lessons and express your views if I missed anything, give your feedback to improve...

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